• While some popular houseplants thrive indoors, they should never be transplanted outdoors, where they can become invasive.
DEAR HARRIETTE: I work from home, and my roommate does, too. At first, it wasn’t a big deal; we thought we could share the space easily and just use headphones when we had meetings. Lately, our schedules have started to clash, and we both end up taking video calls at the same time. Since our apartment is small, there’s no real privacy, and her voice often carries into my meetings. It’s gotten to the point where I find myself distracted, missing key points and feeling embarrassed when my manager comments on the background noise. I’ve tried dropping hints, like mentioning how hectic it gets when we both talk at once, but she never seems to pick up on it. She tends to brush it off and say, “Yeah, it’s just part of working from home,” but I don’t think she realizes how much it’s impacting my performance.
DEAR HARRIETTE: I moved in with my boyfriend recently, and my parents are furious. I come from a traditional background where living together before marriage is considered shameful. My mother won’t speak to me, and my father told me he didn’t raise me this way. I understand their values, but I think this is a step toward building a healthy relationship before marriage.
Dear Doctors: My question is about the holidays, and it’s two parts. The to-do list just seems to get longer each year, and I’m already feeling stressed-out. Also, I just turned 44 and I don’t recover from the eating and drinking like I used to. Do you have any realistic ideas other than “just say no”?
The Economist asked, “voters have spoken, but what did they say?” Good question, and the magazine provides a trenchant answer: “Democrats risk drawing the wrong lessons from one good day. Moderate governors offer a better model than a charming socialist in New York.”
DEAR HARRIETTE: My mom passed a few weeks ago. We’ve been estranged for years. She moved to the United States when I was young in hopes of creating a better life for her children. She sent for me eventually, but I liked the life I had in our home country, so I stayed.
Iwas weeding through my closet, as I need to do much more often than I do. I bring my used clothing to my parent’s house, up north, because they have a very nice thrift store that employs developmentally disabled people. It appears my old clothes find new owners quickly, so I don’t feel as bad about dumping my ill-considered clothing choices.
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The government shutdown lasted 40 days before Senate Democrats abandoned the filibuster that closed offices, left workers without paychecks, threatened supplemental food benefits for millions, saw the beginning of a gradual shutdown of the commercial aviation system, and much more. The question is: Why did those Democrats hold out for so long? Why did they stubbornly play a losing hand even as millions of Americans suffered?
DEAR HARRIETTE: My boyfriend recently moved in with me, and ever since then, my cat’s behavior has completely changed. She’s been acting out: scratching furniture, hiding for hours and even refusing to eat sometimes. She used to be calm and affectionate, but now she seems anxious and territorial. My partner is trying to be patient, but I can tell he’s getting frustrated, especially since the cat hisses at him whenever he walks by or tries to sit near me.