Sisters with big age gap struggle to connect

DEAR HARRIETTE: There's a pretty large age gap between my sister and me. When my mom had me, my sister was 16 years old. I have been told that when I was a baby, my sister would take care of me like I was her own. But when I turned 4, my sister joined the Air Force. A couple of years later, she got married and had children of her own. I am so happy for her. She has it all: an amazing husband, beautiful kids and a great-paying job. I understand she has a life of her own. However, lately, speaking to her is like speaking to a stranger. She and I are polar opposites. I feel that I don't have as close a bond with her as she has for other people. My sister makes time for her friends (when she is not watching the kids), but we never seem to do anything together. I miss having this bond with my sister, and I worry that she doesn't love me. Is there any way I can build our bond again? - Distant Sister

Man gets angry when wiferesists catering to his libido

iiEAR ABBY: I have been married for 30 years. I still work full time, and my husband is now retired. We have had issues during most of our marriage, mainly concerning his not getting enough sex. A couple of times a week isn’t sufficient.

Offset negative thoughts with positive reflection

4 EAR HARRIETTE: I know that people die all the time in life, but I feel like too many people I am connected to personally are dying right now. From little kids to former colleagues to a neighbor to a friend’s elderly father, it feels like everybody is dying. I’m scared to answer the phone these days because I’m afraid that it will be one more of those awful calls. It’s overwhelming. I am so worried that someone else I love is next. How can I manage these anxious feelings that I have? I know I can’t control who lives or dies, but I need to get a handle on how I am dealing with it all. Staring Down Death

Using correct terminology will decreases

ear Doctor: Would you please explain the terms we keep hearing in news reports about that new virus, like “epidemic” and “outbreak” and “pandemic”? It seems like they’re being used interchangeably, and it makes it hard to understand what’s really going on.

Clash over money threatens to undermine reconciliation

DEAR ABBY: My wife, “Cynthia,” and I are a middle-aged couple who have been married four years. Shortly after our wedding, she suffered a stroke during a heart transplant. After she returned home from the hospital, a “friend” told her I was having an affair (I wasn’t). Without telling me why, Cynthia threw me out of the house and returned to a distant state to be near her family. She had most of her belongings shipped there.

COPD most often associated with smoking, lung irritation

Dear Doctor: I’m 66 years old, and I seem to be of an age at which the people I know are being diagnosed with COPD. I’ve heard it mentioned in TV ads, but I still don’t really understand what it is. Who gets COPD? Is there a cure?

Dr. Eve Glazier

Dear Doctor: Everybody’s suddenly talking about how it’s important to eat some walnuts every day. Who decided that? Why is Serving there the always finest a in new Mexican-American food fad? cuisin

Hariette Cole

DEAR HARRIETTE: My friend and I used to be very close until she moved back home to take care of her ailing mother (who has since died). Honestly, she seems stuck. She is of retirement age, though she still needs to work, so 310 she S. does 4th St. odd • (580) jobs 323- here and there.

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