DEAR HARRIETTE: I was involved in a terrible car wreck early on the morning of New Year's Day. Almost all of my loved ones and close friends either visited me in the hospital or sent flowers. I was really hurt when my best friend didn't visit me in the hospital after my accident. It was like they completely ignored what had happened, which is so unlike them. I thought that out of all people, they would be there for me and show their support. But it seems like I was wrong, and now I'm feeling betrayed and alone. It's been difficult to get over this disappointment and figure out why it happened in the first place. Is there any advice you can give on how to make sense of the situation? — Car Wreck DEAR CAR WRECK: Some people freeze in the face of tragedy and do not know how to move forward. There is a chance that this is true for your best friend. It doesn't excuse them, but it could be an explanation. After you are feeling better, if you still have not heard from your best friend, reach out. Ask them what they have been doing so you can learn what's going on in their life. Tell them briefly about your accident and ask if they knew about it. Then ask why they didn't come to see you or contact you. Describe how frightening the experience was and how sad you where that they weren't there to support you. Listen calmly to discover what happened.