Husband forgets 20th anniversary

DEAR HARRIETTE: My husband forgot our 20-year wedding anniversary, and I’ve been sobbing about it for a whole week. I planned a surprise romantic dinner for us, and I got him a really nice watch that he has been eyeing for a while. He, however, had nothing planned for me and no gift awaiting me. I’ve been with him for 20 years, and he can’t even remember me.

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• Before you hit record, consider whether a photo might tell the story just as well. Videoheavy social platforms require enormous amounts of data storage and streaming power, which translates into a significant carbon footprint. Short videos can be fun and engaging, but a single photo post uses far less data and energy to upload, store and view. When a picture can communicate the same message, choosing a photo over a video is a simple way to reduce your digital impact.

Elizabeth Ko, M.D.

Dear Doctors: I just finished a tough year in grad school, and my diet hasn’t been that great. I know your gut microbiome has a lot to do with good health, and I want to get mine into better shape. I’m thinking about probiotic capsules, but it’s confusing. How do you know which ones to take?

Person struggles after being ghosted

DEAR HARRIETTE: I got out of a fiveyear relationship eight months ago and finally felt like I was ready to get back out there. I signed up for a dating app and matched with a guy. We talked for about a week and decided to meet up.

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• Do you want to prevent wasps and hornets from building nests on your house? Instead of reaching for chemical insecticides, fill a spray bottle with soap and water and spray the nest directly. This simple method works because the soapy mixture clogs the insects’ breathing pores while also creating a slick surface that helps break down the nest. The residual soap can also make the area slippery enough to discourage new nests from forming in the same spot. For best results, spray in the evening or early morning, when wasps and hornets are less active and inside the nest.

Reader gets upset by grandma’s lies

DEAR HARRIETTE: My nana is a gossip. It doesn’t matter what type of boundaries you try to establish – she will inevitably cross them and say something she shouldn’t. My mom has a complicated relationship with her, not talking to her as often as my nana deems appropriate. Due to this, my nana assumes and makes up reasons and scenarios. I try not to let her relationship with my mom affect me, but the other day she called me and claimed my mom is depressed and blamed it all on me for moving across state lines. My mom completely denied this and told me she hadn’t talked to my nana in months.

Elizabeth Ko, M.D.

Dear Doctors: On Dr. Eve Glazier’s podcast, a dentist strongly recommended using a tongue scraper for oral health. Then I came across one of your columns, which warns against cleaning one’s tongue. I’m confused. Can someone clear this up?

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• Adding music to an Instagram post may seem small, but it quietly increases your digital footprint. A silent photo might be just a few megabytes, but adding music can multiply the file size, which means more data is uploaded, stored and streamed to every viewer.

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