• A lot of people like to add white vinegar to the automatic dishwasher to help boost its cleaning power and leave dishes and cups sparkling clean. The only issue with using vinegar is this: It’s a strong acid that can degrade the rubber gaskets inside your dishwasher over time. Instead of adding vinegar to the dispenser, consider spraying white vinegar over your dishes, plates and flatware with a spray bottle. Let the mild acid do its trick for a few minutes before hitting the ON button. This will give you all the benefits without any of the acidic damage.
DEAR HARRIETTE: I stole my neighbor’s dog. He’s asking for the dog back, but I told him no. To add context to the situation, my neighbor has been mistreating this dog since he first got him over a year ago. The dog is too thin, his fur is unkempt and to top it all off, his owner leaves him outside all year round. We live in Michigan, and the weather can be freezing cold; even though he has a heated doghouse, it has been so sad to watch. One night a week ago, I sneaked into his yard and took the dog. I tried to hide him from my neighbor, but I wasn’t successful because I live across the street from him.
DEAR HARRIETTE: For the past few months, I’ve been seeing this guy, going on a few dates and hanging out with him in social settings. Lately, there have been a lot of things going on in my personal life with my family, and I don’t think I’m in the right headspace to be there for him. We were never technically a couple, but we were working toward getting there.
DEAR HARRIETTE: My sister lost her job six months ago and hasn’t been able to find a new one. She worked in tech for 10 years at some great companies, but she hasn’t found any success. She recently asked if she could move into the spare bedroom in my family’s house because she has blown through all of her savings. I told her that I’ll have to check in with my husband, and she got extremely upset that I wouldn’t immediately welcome her with open arms. She started saying that if the situation were reversed, she wouldn’t hesitate to take me in, and that she couldn’t believe I needed to “ask permission” to help my own sister.
DEAR HARRIETTE: I started a book club around eight months ago, and I advertised it on my community’s Facebook page. I was so excited because the first time I hosted, it was a success. More than 30 people came, and the discussion we had on the book was amazing. As I’ve hosted more sessions, the numbers have slowly started to dwindle, with as few as three people showing up sometimes. Am I doing something wrong?
DEAR HARRIETTE: My mom has always had a troubled relationship with my grandmother, primarily due to growing up in poverty, surrounded by so much uncertainty. Due to her upbringing, my mom vowed to provide her children with a better life than what she had. After high school, my mom left home and became the first one in her family to obtain a college degree, and she married my father, who is from an upper-middleclass family. Lately, there has been even more tension between my mom and grandmother, with my grandmother believing my mom thinks she’s better than the rest of the family since she has a degree, career and house in the suburbs.









