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DEAR HARRIETTE: I have a friend who has always had low standards for the men in her life. She goes out of her way to do everything for them and is consistently disappointed in the end because they don't even show a fraction of the same care she gives them. It's incredibly discouraging, and I don't know how to help her. Do you have any advice on how to raise her standards and get her to stop doing so much for the wrong people? — Raise Your Standards DEAR RAISE YOUR STANDARDS: Your friend sounds like a prime candidate for counseling. If she has fallen into an unhealthy pattern of how she engages men in relationships that leaves her disappointed and unfulfilled, she needs help learning how to make better choices. You probably don't have the tools to guide her to the other side.
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As the war in Ukraine begins its second year, a new Fox News poll shows Americans divided nearly down the middle over how much and how long the United States should support Ukraine in its war against Russian invaders.
DEAR HARRIETTE: I am writing to ask for advice about how I should handle my employee moving out of the country while we remain a fully remote team. Obviously, she is allowed to work from anywhere she wants to, but scheduling has become a challenge because of the time difference. I'm struggling with finding ways to keep the team connected and feeling like a cohesive unit, and my employee moving out of the country hasn't made anything easier. I need her to be more accommodating to the majority of the company and the time zone that we all work in. What should I do? — Time Difference DEAR TIME DIFFERENCE: The remote workplace comes with a unique set of challenges — not the least of which is managing time zones.
You might wonder if the water from a backyard pool can be used to water plants. The answer is yes and no. Unfortunately, if you have a chlorinated pool, the chlorine can harm plants, since chlorine is meant to kill bacteria and algae in the pool. But if you use the water on the lawn, it's fine. As long as the water is spread over a great deal of space and the lawn receives a ton of sunlight to neutralize it, chlorinated pool water won't damage your lawn at all.
To hear people tell it, the kids are definitely not all right. According to The Washington Post, there’s “a crisis in American girlhood.” To Derek Thompson in The Atlantic, “the inexorable rise of teen anxiety ought to be a national crisis.”
DEAR HARRIETTE: I feel so bad. A friend of mine asked me to talk to her dad about a project he is working on. I agreed right away, but then I got distracted. First, I got sick with whatever bug is making its rounds. Then I got so busy playing catch-up at work that I totally forgot. I remembered the other day, but then I felt like such a loser that I didn't reach out. It just felt like it was too late. But that's no way to handle things. I don't mean to be a disappointment, especially to my friend's dad. What can I say or do to make it up to him? — Not a Flake DEAR NOT A FLAKE: Now that you have remembered, reach out at once to your friend. Tell her the truth. Start by letting her know that you haven't spoken to her father yet.
Dear Doctors: I am 69 years old and have two cups of coffee each morning.
It was a different time. The Ruan Center in Des Moines, with 35 floors, had just become Iowa’s tallest building. Jack Trice Stadium in Ames, home of the Iowa State Cyclones, had just opened. The farm girls were still playing 6-on-6 high school basketball – three forwards on one half of the court, three guards (permitted to dribble only twice) on the other, and no crossing the half-court line – and they were attracting thousands of spectators, as many as 7,362 to watch Warsaw defeat Bloomfield, 57-52, for the state championship in 1976.