DEAR HARRIETTE: My family and I spent the weekend with old friends -- the first time we have ventured out to be with others since the pandemic started. It was a lovely visit in some ways, but one thing bothered me a lot. My husband and I have been fussing pretty intensely for as long as I can remember, but usually when we are in public, so to speak, he is gregarious. While spending time with others, he often doesn't pay me much attention. Well, this weekend I became the butt of all of his jokes and venom. It was so uncomfortable. It seemed like whatever I said, he countered it, negated it and blew me off. I tried to ignore him, but at times it was just too much, so I reacted. That just made the situation worse. I have asked my husband for years to go to therapy with me, and he has refused. I want to ask again, but I fear a huge blowup. What should I do? –Tired of Fighting