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Eve Glazier, M.D.

There was an extraordinary Senate debate this week in Orem, Utah, between Sen. Mike Lee and challenger Evan McMullin. It was extraordinary in part because McMullin, who is running as an independent and says that if elected he will not caucus with either Democrats or Republicans, agreed with Lee in many policy areas, like federal spending and regulatory overreach. “I think our difference is in approach,” McMullin said at one point.

DEAR HARRIETTE: My older sister and I are very close. She is much older than me, so she's been more like a second mother to me than a sister. My sister has always struggled to find her footing. She is approaching her 40s and just recently moved out of our family home into her own place for the first time. Something she says to me regularly is that she thinks I am a lot like her — a late bloomer. She thinks that I'll probably have to deal with a lot of the same struggles that she has had in her adulthood. I am only 22, and I don't think it's fair to write me off as a late bloomer just yet. I struggled in high school a bit, but I'm on track to graduate from college, and I've always been a hard worker. It offends me a little bit when she assumes that I will struggle in life. Should I say something to her about this? — Not a Late Bloomer DEAR NOT A LATE BLOOMER: Yes, you can talk to her. Point out what you are doing right now to build your life. Thank her for her support over the years. And ask her to stop diminishing you with her predictions of struggle. Ask her to wish the best for you and to say it out loud. Tell her that what you need most from her is cheerleading, not doomsaying.